Addressing Bullying in School

Bullying in schools continues to be a widespread issue that can have lasting effects on a child’s emotional and mental well-being. Whether it happens in the classroom, on the playground, or online, bullying can deeply impact a student’s experience and self-confidence. For parents, it’s important to know what bullying looks like, how to spot it, and most importantly, how to respond.

Is It Bullying?

Not all conflicts or disagreements between children are bullying. Sometimes, kids argue or say unkind things without it becoming a harmful pattern. That’s why understanding what bullying actually is helps parents know when and how to step in. Bullying in schools is defined by repeated, intentional harm, whether verbal, physical, or emotional.

Here are examples of behavior that reflect bullying:

• Name-calling or teasing that’s meant to hurt
  Repeated insults or mockery targeting a child’s appearance, abilities, or background.

   

• Excluding someone on purpose
  Leaving a child out of group activities with the intent to hurt or isolate them.

   

• Spreading rumors
  Sharing false or embarrassing information to damage someone’s reputation.

   

• Physical aggression
  Hitting, pushing, tripping, or damaging another student’s belongings.

   

• Cyberbullying
  Sending hurtful messages, posting embarrassing photos, or harassing someone through social media or messaging apps.

   

• Threatening or intimidating behavior
  Using fear to control, silence, or manipulate another child.

Signs of Bullying

The signs of bullying in schools can often be subtle or mistaken for other issues. Children may feel ashamed, afraid, or unsure how to express what they’re experiencing. That’s why parents should stay observant and look for these possible signs:

• Unexplained injuries
• Lost or damaged belongings
• Frequent headaches or stomachaches
• Avoiding school or social activities
• Sudden changes in mood or behavior
• Difficulty sleeping or frequent nightmares
• Declining grades or loss of interest in school
• Changes in eating habits
• Self-isolation or withdrawal from friends
• Signs of anxiety or depression

What Can Parents Do?

If you think your child could be dealing with a bully, parents can play a crucial role in helping them navigate the situation. Early involvement can prevent further harm and support a healthier school experience.

Create a safe space to talk
Let your child know you are there to listen without judgment. Stay calm and give them time to share. Ask open-ended questions to help them express what’s going on.

Document what’s happening
Keep a detailed record of bullying incidents. Include dates, descriptions, and any witnesses. This helps when discussing the issue with school staff.

Communicate with the school
Reach out to your child’s teacher, school counselor, or principal. Share your concerns and work together to form a plan. Ask about school policies and steps they will take to ensure safety.

Follow up regularly
Continue to check in with your child and the school. Track whether the bullying stops and make adjustments if necessary. Staying involved shows your child that they are not alone.

Address technology
Cyberbullying is a growing concern with increased screen time and social media use. Set boundaries for screen time, monitor online interactions, encourage your child to speak up if something feels wrong, and teach them how to block or report inappropriate behavior.

Seek outside support if needed
If bullying is taking a toll on your child’s mental health, consider talking to a therapist. Professional support can help them process their feelings and build resilience.

Advice Parents Can Give

Helping children feel confident and prepared can go a long way in addressing bullying in schools. Giving them practical tools can empower them to stand up for themselves or ask for help.

Stay calm and walk away
Encourage your child to avoid reacting emotionally when bullied. Bullies often want a strong reaction, so staying calm can reduce the impact.

Tell a trusted adult
Make sure your child knows it’s okay to ask for help. Whether it’s a teacher, coach, or parent, speaking up is a sign of strength—not weakness.

Stick with friends
Children are less likely to be targeted when they are with a group. Encourage your child to stay close to friends and build strong peer relationships.

Practice what to say
Role-playing different scenarios can help your child feel more prepared. Practice confident phrases like “That’s not okay,” or “Please stop.”

Don’t get upset at the bully
Let your child know that reacting with anger may be exactly what the bully wants. Responding with calm confidence is usually more effective. At the same time, encourage them to talk openly with you about their anger so they can release those emotions in a safe and healthy way.

Keep parents updated
Explain the importance of checking in after the situation has been addressed. Encourage your child to let you know how things are going so you can be sure the bullying has truly stopped and they feel safe again.

Don’t blame yourself
Remind your child that bullying is never their fault. Reinforce that no one deserves to be mistreated, and they deserve kindness and respect.

Wrapping Up – Addressing Bullying in School

Bullying in schools is a serious issue that can impact a child’s sense of safety and self-worth. But with strong communication, support, and proactive steps, parents can play a powerful role in protecting and empowering their children. By staying informed and involved, we can help build a safer, more supportive school environment for everyone.

Sources: Nemours, American Psychological Association, Office of Human Rights